To successfully manage your anger you must:

  1. Acknowledge you have a problem with anger, i.e. that you say things, lash out, lose it in ways that are hurtful to others and create problems for you in your relationships.
  2. Take full responsibility for your angry words and behaviors, no matter what others may or may not have said or done.
  3. Gain an understanding of the different physiological factors that may play a part in the way you deal with anger, and an understanding of the addictive quality of rage.
  4. Learn to recognize the mental and physical signs that let you know you’re on the way to an angry outburst or expression of rage.
  5. Examine the underlying beliefs that fuel your anger.
  6. Learn other ways to express your feelings besides getting angry.
  7. Acknowledge the part that addictive behaviors or substances may play in your issues with anger.

Issues from the past, current stress, and habitual responses can all combine to keep you in a cycle of angry outbursts, remorse,  attempts to make up,  followed by angry outbursts, and on and on.

You CAN  learn to manage your anger and move out of this destructive cycle.  And you  can feel the same sense of accomplishment and relief that people experience when their anger no longer wounds others, and they've learned how to constructively express their feelings.

Call 703-532-2424 or e-mail me at if you want to work on your issues with anger.