“For one human being to love another:  That is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”

                                                                                          - Rainer Maria Rilke

If so, you’re not alone.  Often the very things that draw people to their partners, are the very things that over time drive them crazy.

And it is common for partners to fall into fighting styles that cause both to quickly move to a “fight or flight” response.  When people are in this mode, it is extremely difficult to think rationally and to have empathy for the other person.  Consequently, partners end up re-wounding each other over and over.

I work with couples to help them get unstuck from their non-constructive patterns of dealing with conflict.  Using techniques that foster insight, empathy and behavioral change, I help couples achieve genuine intimacy, a state in which each individual feels respected and cherished.

Areas dealt with in couples therapy include:

Having a fulfilling, healthy, long-lasting relationship IS possible, but it takes work.

“When we love someone our love becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion—through the fact that for someone...we take an extra step or walk an extra mile.  Love is not effortless.  To the contrary, love is effortful.”
                                                                   - M. Scott Peck

Please call 703-532-2424 if you’d like to set up an appointment for couples therapy.